Pulling Your Own Strings
...n is louder than words. Giving a slight karate chop to the stomach of your victimizer followed by the words, I dont intend to take that kind of abuse from you, will let your abuser know you mean business. *You Teach People with Behavior Not Words Therapy is often thought to be an experience which teaches new behaviors, and discourages meaningless talk. The most effective teacher in the world is behavior. Behavior is the only way to teach others not to bully you. By standing up for yourself you are sending a positive and forceful message you wont take the abuse. Three situations where words dont work: o Children and Parents o Spouse Conflicts o The Battered Wife *What Do You Expect From a Drunk? Ignore him/her; get away from him, or whatever works. You now avoid him/her from bringing you down with them. *Effectively Assertive Being assertive is: making bold, confident statements in defense of yourself, or your non-victim position. You get treated the way you teach people to treat you; be assertive and you wont be a victim. You pull your own strings by standing up to those that infringe on your rights. *Some Common Categories of People You Have Taught To Victimize You Drunk and people who are high Bores Whiners and complainers Bullies Arguers Braggers and storytellers Shockers Resenters Reporters and Squealers Moody People Continued list on pages 151-155 *Some Typical Victim Targets Dyer listed famous people such as Lincoln and MLK that did...