Pornography Kills
...rnography will little by little become an idol to the man. As a man views pornography more and more frequently sex becomes a form of idolatry. The man worships sex when he watches pornography for lengthy times, masturbating and repeatedly practicing these things. Instead of finding a release in God, the person will look for a release in the climax of viewing pornography (Cook and Cook). Pornography rips relationships apart all over a man's life. Not only does it destroy a man's relationship with God, but it also destroys any relationship he has of any kind with any woman. Single men are obviously not married so they do not have to worry about ruining a sexual relationship with a person. Instead they have to deal with the strain put on girlfriends and even friendships from the repeated viewing of pornography. Men with girlfriends will not only fall victim to masturbation, but most likely also go to far in their relationships with women. The man will stop looking at his girlfriend as she is but will start to view as the women that he sees in pornography he views (Arterburn and Stoeker 32). Single men sometimes think that men who are married have it easy. They can find sexual release with their wives in their lives. Single men often think that they can continue their habits of pornography and masturbation and when they get married they will stop and be pleased by their wife instead of by their own doing, but that idea is far away from the truth. Pornography is designed with the viewer in mind. It is created to excite the viewer. When the viewer watches pornography an unrealistic perception of sex is created. God made sex as a private expression of love between a married couple, not for self gratification. When pornography is viewed repeatedly it takes away from the value and appreciation of sex with their spouse. With all this happening true intimacy in a marriage could be damaged or in the case of the single man a future sex life in marriage will be damaged (Cook and Cook). God made man and woman for each other. He designed them so that one day in their lives they would grow up, leave their home and get married. Once man and woman are married a beautiful relationship has been created by God. But pornography can change that beautiful plan that God drew up for the husband and the wife. Pornography deforms what is beauiful and praises ugliness. It breaks the claims for modesty and privacy and replaces them with “honesty” and “frankness”, this destroying intimacy. This separates love from sex and demonstrating a hatred of what is humane (Court 27). Once the beauty of the relationship between man and wife starts to fade even more negative starts to happen. Pornography turns a man's wife into an object. The wife turns into an object for the man to act out all of his pornographical fantasies on. Not someone he loves and longs to please. She just becomes an object (Stoeker and Arterburn 80). As married men get more and more exposure to pornography it takes more and more for their sexual desires and fantasies to be fulfilled. Therefore, for man sex is turned into something to please only them and not their spouse (Arterburn and Stoeker 36). As you see, the more a man views pornography the less he is interested in pleasing his wife during sex. He starts to only consider himself during times of sexual interaction between the spouses. But even further with the self satisfaction is masturbation. With pornography comes masturbation. Pornography creates a fantasy world in a man's mind where he has fantasies about women he sees instead of thinking of his wife. This leads to masturbating where the husband hogs his sexuality and deprives his wife and himself of the sexual fulfillment God intended in a marriage. Each time the man fantasizes and masturbates he breaks his wedding vows and commits adultery in his heart (Eutsler 48). Once the husband begins hogging his sexuality and deprives his wife he turns his wife it find her sexual fulfillment elsewhere. Hogging opens the door up to the swinger (sexual spouse swapping) lifestyle or possibly an affair. Now that the relationship with God and women is a man's life has been damaged by pornography there is still yet another thing that will be destroyed. After an addiction to pornography has been established a man's perspective on reality is greatly altered. Although some people will say viewing pornography is healthy, that is not the case. As stated by Dr. Mary Anne Layden, “If pornography made us healthy we would all be healthy by now.” The man now focuses on looking at sex images and women. Men will try to justify pornography and masturbation by saying that it is natural and that they need to relieve themselves. This statement is not true. As Dr. Reginald Cherry, a diagnostic internal medicine specialist from Houston, Texas says, “ There is no reason to be concerned health wise when there is no sexual activity,” he states. “Futhermore,” he says, “attempts by many medical professionals to certify masturabation as healthy is really just a clumsy effort to alleviate the guilt that many people feel from their participation in the behavior. They have no basis in science or medicine.” The man focus's so much that many young men have been driven to depression. Pornography starts to consume their everyday thoughts so much many could fall into depression due to not wanting to spend time going out but instead enjoy spending time alone in the viewing of pornography and engaging themselves in masturbation (Stoeker and Arterburn 40). Once the...