The Ultimate Effect Could Be Homicide
..., or alcohol to ease the pain, and to stop the tapes in her mind telling her “what a loser she is”. She develops a relationship with a young man she thinks he is her knight in shining armor. He treats her good, buys her things, tells her things that she has longed to hear like “I love you” and “I will never hurt you”. They choose to marry, and now she is a wife and her dreams will come true. They will have a couple of children and live happily ever after. The abuse may start out subtle, he could isolate her from family and friends. Then maybe one night they are drunk and he tells her “she never does anything right” or “she does not know what she is talking about”. The tapes in her mind start telling her what a loser she is. She starts doubting herself, not trusting her instincts. He tells her he’s “sorry”, it was because I was drunk, she wants to believe him. She starts to think maybe what he said is true because that is what was told to her by her parents. He may come home from work one evening in a bad mood, or he is stressed out about their finances, and he feels she is not paying enough attention to him. They begin to argue and he shoves or hits her, this sets up the vicious cycle of abuse. Again he tells her, he is “sorry” and “it will not happen again” she is yearning to believe him. She tells her self next time, I will shut up when he tells me too, and I will just sit there, and listen to him not saying anything. She believes she can control his muscles by her comportment, she takes responsible for his actions. He conducts himself like he did at the beginning of their relationship, buying her things telling her how much he loves her, and reassuring her, he’ll never hit her again and quits drinking alcohol to show her he means it. Shes convinced this time it really is going to work, it has been almost a year since he has layed a hand on her. The subtle abuse starts again, he tells her she is ugly, fat, stupid and no one would want her. Even though he promised he would never hit her again, he hits her. The cycle starts again. She knows this is not good for her well being, she thinks “he will kill me if I leave him” he had told her that at one point in their relationship. She finds the courage to leave him, he discovers where she is living, and he...