marriage in our life
...s in a strange state of mind where what seems obvious to everybody else, can be overlooked by his or her love. Love must be based on trust. If there is no trust in a relationship, you have nothing. This feeling also cannot be brought on by appearances, and must gradually develop between the two people as they get to know one another. The relationship values on love cannot be centred on beauty or immediate attraction but rather, knowing the personality of your partner before you devote your life to them. A marriage must be motivated by feelings other than romantic love. Everyone has separate ideas of what marriage should be. Marriage is what you make of it. Love can only be found when your beliefs coincide with another's ideas. Even today, people find out the hard way that they are not compatible and that everyone's perception of marriage is different. This can be seen everyday among couples who separate and among others, whose marriages last the rest of their lives. Life is a learning process and we must take the bad with the good. Young people today have a tendency to rush in to commitments before fully understanding what they are getting into. One of the most serious of these is marriage. There are several serious effects and problems associated with rushing into marriage. Anyone considering getting married should be aware of some devastating statistics and possibilities. There is really no good reason to rush into marriage. If two people are really in love and meant to be together, time will only better their relationship. A happy, successful marriage is worth the wait. Many young adults marry so young because of many reasons. Some get married to be with each other, others say it is because of religion, and many marry because of pregnancy. Nevertheless, it is almost never the case of marrying because of love, which is the way many marriages should be based on. Unfortunately it's not. Why do teenagers leave home at such young ages to get married? As a teenager, we all hated the rules that our parents set in the house. We have all broken a rule or two, like staying out past curfew or lying saying we are staying at a friend's house and end up with our boyfriend that our parents disagree about because of his age. However, we did not want to listen to any rule that has to do with our love life. Another reason why people marry so young is religious reason. By that, I mean by having sex the right way. They figure if we are going to have sex we might as well do it the right way and get married. By doing this, they are basing their marriage all on sex that should never be the reason for marrying anybody. When you marry somebody, it should be based on your love for each other and not for what you want from each other because your marriage will never succeed that way. Pregnancy is also another most common reason why young adults marry so young. Most people feel that if they get their girlfriend pregnant, then it is his job to take care if their responsibility, which should never be the case. If you and your girlfriend/boyfriend are not ready to take the big step by getting married and supporting each other, then you should never feel that it is what you have to do for the child. If will only cause more confusion for the child and hate for the couple. I know that many children today are very confused about the relationship between mommy and daddy. Why do some marriages work while others do not? Today's generation of young adults, live their lives so differently. Many marriages between the ages 18 25 usually does not last very long. The reason being is that many young adults jump right into marriages without any preparations or knowing anything. For instance, I'm sure that when teenagers under the age of 20 get married their usually just leaving their parents care and aren't use to taking care of themselves as far as paying bills, groceries, car insurance and other things that come along with being a responsible adult. Money is always the major cause of divorces among young adults Never jump right into a marriage if you are not ready, it's only going to make the marriage worst and end very early than you had anticipated on. The major reason why so many young adult marriages do not work is that they do not have trust in their relationship. If you do not have trust then you really do not have any type of relationship with anybody. Trust is the key thing in any t...