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...your relationship. Be consistent with these values throughout the life cycle of your relationship. Establish and maintain a level of intimacy that will satisfy each other’s most desired needs. The same things you used to build it, must be kept to keep it. 2. Commitment, to each other, to your goals, to your relationship as a unit, with the understanding that hard times will come, … along with conflicts, anger, etc. human behavior is human behavior, unavoidable. This is where you establish parameters of how far things will be allowed to go and what steps, strategies or disciplines are you building in place to meet these challenges both external and internal as the they approach those boundaries you mutually decided upon. 3. Good Sound judgment, particularly on things, people, and /or situations that can affect your relationship. Understand the financial power, the structure and growth potential of your combine investments into your relationship, particularly if kids are involved. 4. Trust, is a key player. Access vs Trust. You can give someone access to certain parts of your heart, feelings, as long as you keep them within a comfort zone, close enough to share but distant enough so they can never be in a position to hurt you or your relationship. 5. Be your partner’s eyes behind their back, you will see their dangers before they do, they may even experience denial to a point. If it is a danger to them or your relationship, be persistent even if it hurts, this is an integrity and credibility issue, this could be a point to walk away if need be, if not, your relationship beyond this point could only be supported by lies. 6. Cohesiveness, create an unbreakable bond between you and your partner that overrides any external influences. Allow no one to come before your partner, in your life, never put your partner on hold for a friend allow friends input to influence your thoughts or behavior towards your partner, respect your partner’s judgment. Do not allow the word “Controlling” to ever be used to describe your partner and the concern they have for your well being or caring nature for you, this is the key word that is used to divide and manipulate you independently. 7. Roles in a relationship are predefined and biblically endorsed. The real man’s role is to be a good leader and to be a provider and to defend and protect against anything or anyone that presents a threat to the peace and harmony of your relationship, your home, your friendship and your future together. Protect against the envious and the harmful. The support role is to defend what is precious to you, to stand by your man and have faith and trust that his decisions are in the best long term interest of your relationship. (This is where most external attacks originate projecting towards your partner the words “Controlling” and “Selfish”). Be an inspiration to each other, be a comfort to each other spiritually as well as emotionally. Realize that even behind the strongest display of strength, everyone has feelings and is capable of being hurt by things said or done or just being ignore, even Jesus wept, be careful with each other’s feelings and never minimize what is important to your partner, compromise and make sacrifices if need be to prevent a hurt or serious damage to your relationship……if you feel it is worth it. 8. You must present a united front vs external attacks, penetration or attempts to divide you on any issues, you must have an inseparable friendship. Of course this is not an issue for your first date…., prior to this let us take at a look at some tracks that ...