Do memories hinder or help people in their effort to learn from the past and succeed in the present?
...hey often recollect that moment, and then these memories will be a vitamin in their life. In addition, if they created a success when they do something that they want to achieve, they remember that moment which is the most glorious moment in their life, so this memory would be a great motivation. After that they definitely want to experience that feeling again, which they felt at that moment, and then it stimulates another success. Memories do not act only in a positive way. Sometimes people suffer from their memories. They remember they got hurt when they were children, or their first lover betrayed them, or when they were divorced from their spouse. They never forget that moment, and they will suffer from those memories for a long time. When they fail, they are frustrated by their mistake, and then these distressful memories disturb their next attempt. Even though they made efforts to overcome the failure, they will hesitate to try the same thing again. In my case, when I broke up with my girlfriend, I felt awful about it. The most horrible thing is the memory about her. For a long time after we broke up, I could smell her perfume, and I could draw her face when I closed my eyes, and even her long hair reminded me of my memories. It drove me crazy. At that time I could do nothing except clean my room, and remove her things. I just waited until the gift of god (forgetfulness) started working. People say that time is the best medicine to recover from a horrible moment. That was right. After that, I started getting better little by little, and then three months later, finally, I could come back to my normal life; however, a long time after, I was afraid to make another love when I met a girl. Most people overcome their fear of failure with their forgetfulness, but sometimes they cannot overcome an obstacle. It causes a serious problem like a ¡°TRAUMA¡±. They cannot get over the shock, and they remember horrible memories all the time. They ...