erotic massage
Introduction The General Approach this Guide Takes This guide teaches how to give and receive erotic massage. It discusses how to help your partner relax, and discusses how to help your partner experience extended or multiple orgasms as part of your massage. A common arrangement is for one partner to receive a massage first, and then to return the favor, but of course how you choose to arrange this is up to you and your partner. Its best to perform erotic massage while your partner is lying on a massage table of some kind. After preparing your space to be warm and pleasing, you can start with a sensual and relaxing general massage before shifting the focus to your partners sex centers. ... For women, this is best done by using G-Spot and/or clitoral massage to bring her to multiple orgasms, which naturally tend to take place over an extended period of time. Erotic massage can work equally well for same-sex as for opposite-sex partners. ... Preliminaries Set and Setting Taking the time to create a sensual and appealing environment for your erotic massage shows that you care about your partner and value pleasure. ... Keep your lubricants, oils, and gloves (if needed or desired) within easy reach, and cover the massage table with a blanket and place a clean sheet over this blanket. You can let the sides of the blanket and sheet drape over the sides of the table so that they may be brought up to cover the receiving partner (keeping him or her warm) after the massage is finished. ... Some people are more comfortable with a pillow or rolled bath towel underneath their knees and/or head (when lying face up) or their ankles (when lying face down), and some women will be more comfortable with a pillow underneath their hips; if this is your first massage with your partner you might want to experiment a little or ask him or her. If youre going to be giving the massage, take a look at your fingernails and clip them if necessary. ... For genital massage on men, or for massage elsewhere on a man or womans body, you can purchase special massage oils at massage supply shops or else just use a light vegetable oil (such as Safflower, Sunflower, or grapeseed) from the supermarket. ... Its very convenient to have flip-top squeeze bottles for lubes and oils, and one of those massage oil "belts" that massage supply shops sell. Since many of these belts have two pockets, you could use one for lube and the other for massage oil. ... Good Communication During both the relaxation and genital phases of your erotic massage its important for the person on the table to always feel comfortable making requests and comments. ... I hope it goes without saying that you both should be in agreement that your relationship includes the possibility of sexual intimacy before going ahead with an erotic massage. Situations where the giving partner tries to shift a relaxation massage into an erotic realm for the first time, but the receiving partner was expecting or wanting only relaxation massage or doesnt feel your friendship should include sex, can be uncomfortable and embarassing at the least. ... Giving Your Erotic Massage Relaxing Your Partners Body Start by connecting with your partner. ... When both of you are ready, have your partner lie face down, naked, on the massage table. ... Then, perform a relaxing massage on the back, legs, and feet. Basic principles of relaxing massage include keeping your hands in contact with your partner, taking your time, being rhythmic yet sensitive, and proceeding from long gliding strokes to deeper ones. When giving a massage be sure to use good body mechanics: use your body weight rather than arm strength for deep strokes, during gliding strokes keep your knees slightly bent and fluid, and dont lean over the table. ... Massage the chest, arms, and hands. ... At this point erotic energy is often building, making it a natural time to start shifting the focus to more explicitly sexual activities. Especially if this is your first massage with this partner, its a good idea to look into your partners eyes while cradling his or her genitals, and somehow ask his or her permission to go further. The rest of the massage will focus on the genitals, with periodic sweeps up and down the body to spread, balance, and integrate the sensations. One of the skills that comes with practice is being able to read the energy and arousal levels of your partner, and smoothly and gradually ramp up from relaxing massage to more arousing and sexual massage. Pleasuring Your Partners Sex Centers Male Introduction The basic principle of male genital massage is that you should slow down, stop, or change what you are doing just before ejaculation becomes inevitable. ... Although delaying ejaculation during the course of the massage is desirable from the perspective of maximizing pleasure, many partners do like to finish the massage with one. Ejaculation provides a considerable spark of pleasure, but can leave men too fatigued to enjoy the rest of the evening or do a good job massaging their partner; opposite-sex partners who like to finish male genital massage with ejaculation should have the woman receive her massage first. ... As an aside, it should be noted that a nice feature of male genital massage is that an erection is not required for it to feel good; some massage strokes actually feel BETTER when the penis is soft. Suggested Genital Massage Strokes There are many different massage strokes that feel good on male genitals. ... Im going to present a few favorite strokes below, but you can make up your own, refer to Appendix A, or examine the resources in this guides "Learning More about Massage" section to learn dozens of additional strokes. ... At the end of the massage (whether or not there is an ejaculation), the sheet/blanket combination can be folded up over the person on the table to provide a warm cocoon. ... Its because of #5 that the basic approach to erotic massage differs between women and men. ... When performing genital massage on women one often has a "free hand" which may be used to glide over the rest of her body, tease her nipples, massage her perineum, caress her face, form "connections" with other parts of her body (by stimulating some other part of her body at the same time as you are pleasuring her genitals), etc. Although the genital massage styles presented below are some of the most commonly favored among women, there are many more. ... Variations and Enhancements Conscious Breathing Regular, conscious breathing is a powerful way to enhance both relaxation massage and erotic massage. ... Since most massage tables are sturdy enough to support two people, near the end of the massage one partner can climb on top the other and they can both fuck themselves to what are often very powerful orgasms. ... The "Big Draw" This technique for completing a massage was developed by the Body Electric School. In the minutes preceding it the massage work should be becoming more and more energetic, building and building.