Women who needs em'!
...e, be good friends, etc. The fact that we tell a girl we like them is what they hate. They want a guy who is crazy, uninterested, and a challenge. Love is sort of a game for them through college. They want to be able to turn a guy who is uninterested, into interested. And when they succeed, this relationship is most of the time, short. That is when us nice guys are taken advantage of. The girl then comes to us for friendship, comfort and advice. So we do the best we can, hoping for the best in them, cause deep down we really do love them as a friend. Then they do the same thing over. I call this the "Women Want Equation, " or the "Women Confusion Cycle." Women want equation College girl + New found freedom = love Game College girl + "manly" man = broken heart college girl + NICE GUY" = Comfort, and recovery. Women Confusion Cycle The truth is, girls, women, what ever you want to call the, like the challenge they make with the game of love. And yes us nice guys do suffer. We go through many stages. like denial, sorrow, happiness, confidence, and eventually if all turns out, comfort. But eventually we find out that girl like guys who are a challenge, and date them through their school years, but in all reality, when they grow up, they find that the nice guy, or so called friend, are the mature ones, and the ones they really love. And we are the ones that they end up marrying Recently, Wes went out and hit the pavement around our area, and collected the following responses from girls to this question, "What kind of guys do you like?" And here is what we found. Katie said that she likes to go after players because their a challenge....BUT, like you said, after she gets them, it becomes boring... Meri, a current high school attendee, said she likes to go after nice guys now...but this is only after a few experiences with bad guys... Mandy, also said she likes nice guys, but guess what, she had to go through 5 boyfriends before she realized this....go figure... Lauren, another current high school attendee, said she likes bad guys because nice guys are usually boring. Casey, said she likes players because "they know how to eat pussy" Amina said she likes nice guys.... Kelly said she likes nice guys because they're so loveable and sweet. Interesting enough, she's the only girl who's never messed with "assholes"....she's always liked nice guys. After you read these responses, you can notice a few things. One is that all the girls responded saying something to the effect that they enjoyed playing the love game and ending up in a challenge. Two, is that the girls who liked nice guy (most of them) had to go through a few guys before realizing the ultimate goodness of a nice guy. Only a select few know the true loveliness of a nice guy. Now, lets say you were to like a girl. And you kind of got a hint from her that she liked you too. Now most guys, well, nice guys that is, would go, and try to make a move. Now by making a move I don't mean, anything drastic. I mean, telling her, or asking her on a date. Now in this case, she might agree to go on the date, but you soon realize something is wrong. And that she tends to avoid you more often then before. Well, the reason for this is not because of you. It is her fault. You see, women are very difficult. If a girl has a crush on you, she tends to be very slow at making any moves, then when they guy makes the move, she doesn't really like him anymore. Talking to Alicia, and Suzy, two current student along with me, they said this, "If I have a crush on a guy, and he tells me he likes me, I usually don't like him anymore, I know it sounds weird, but it's difficult to explain." Now I asked them other questions too. I wanted to know why. And I finally got them to give a response. They told me that most girls have had a bad experience, with those kinds of relationships in which they had there hearts broken, and for that simple reason, they turn down anxious guys. Nice Guy, what can I say? Yes we do have our fair share of ups and downs too. And yes we are not always the best "MATES". As a matter of fact most nice guys go through stages in there life's when they make mistakes. Coming from experience, and even hearing from others, most guys worst enemy is alcohol. It is a very good social activity, but let it get too far, and guess what happens.....you beer goggles go on, and the situation changes. The worst thing that could happen to a guy is messing around with a girl, and then waking up the next morning not remember what exactly happened, or worse yet having reproductive problems. Another thing that I thought only women did was "lead on." You know where a woman acts as if they like you by giving you subtle signs like "the look," body gestures, hugging, kissing, holding hands, telling you their life story, and every possible secrete known to man. Then to find out that they truly aren't interested. Just the fact that they have the ability to wrap you around their fingers or just get that "close" relation is a good enough excuse to place us down softly and easily, not knowing the true torture they put us through. Unfortunately, guys, we do this too. Especially nice guys. See us nice guys don't really get girls that often, we are always waiting, hoping that one special girl of our dreams will make that faithful switch in finally choosing us. And when we do get a girl that likes us, we shun from their site, only to play them as friends, but truly being confused as to whether to have them as a lover, or just remain as friends. See the reason why is because that girl that especially likes us is the only true girl who sees us for who we truly are, and likes that. But we males seem to lock our sights on that one special girl never to let go until we get her. Hopefully, and in my perfect world (which will never ever come to be) this girl should be seen as a potential sole mate. This is the opportunity of a lifetime. Maybe that girl you have dreamt about all through school is special, and maybe she will like you eventually, but most of the time that female isn't your sole mate. In my own words, "Seize the opportunity sole mate while you can." This could be a lost venture that you may never get a chance to have never ever again. The next few paragraphs of easily flowing words that I type up are all about the complaints that girl have about guys. Now guys I know this will be difficult to read, as it is for me to type. But guys know these things are true, and hate to admit it, so I will take a giant leap for mankind and just throw it all out on the table. Guy you can learn something from this, and women you can figure out why we do these things! Now a lot of guys have this rule, "that if you don't remember, then it never happened." This is terrible thing for a girl to find out. This would break her heart. But you also can't lie either. If this ever happens you must be honest. And if she hates you for it, then that's that! From my perspective, I think honesty is one of the key elements in not only relationships with the opposite sex, but in any kind of relationship. Recently, I went tout and asked girls what really perturbed them about male sin general. I pried into the minds of these girls to get the honest truth on what they hate about us men. So I will attempt to address all of the ones I got. Since I got so many I generalized many of them to make the list smaller. 1.) "Guys don't ever listen to us." You know in all honesty, we try to listen, and most of the time do. I mean I listen to everything everyone says to me. It might not seem that way but I really do. But when we do stop listening, it's usually because we have heard it before, don't care or you just talk too much. I am just being honest! 2.) "Men don't trust women or our girlfriends, yet guys seem to always be untruthful." Now I know me, and my friends would never be untruthful and yet we are always the ones getting played. But, the reason why this occurs is because men are shallow, insecure people, who latch on, and we always assume things, but we try to get away with everything, I guess it's just part of or nature. 3.) "Men always think girls are confusing." To a certain extent this is a double standard. Because I know just as well as anybody else that women think us guys a re confusing to. Yes I know there are the typical stereotypes out there about each gender, but trust me, everybody is truly different, you will just have to get to know that person before finding that out unfortunately. 4.) "Men never express how we feel." Like we were in the "caveman" era we tend to be, or are said to be the emotional rock. We are brought up not to show emotion, so when we do, it has to be a very trying time on us. But like I will say again, this is not always true, many men are emotional in touch with the world and aren't afraid to show it! 5.) "Men judge women by their chest size, but women don't judge men by there package size." Now I know this is true, men always tend to look at a woman's appearance, including breast size, to size up a woman of their dreams. This is vary shallow and unfortunately true. Men can be pigs sometimes, but trust me, well at least for me, personality play an important role. 6.) "Women always seem to do all the work in relationships." I think this is a crock. Woman like to take all the credit for the relationship, but from my experience and what I have witnessed, this is rarely true. Most of the time it is give and take, each partner gives their just role. But I guess women just don't see it that way 7.) "When or after fighting, all men want to do is make out." I really have no comment on this one, when I get in a fight with a woman, I rarely ever try to capitalize on scoring in this situation. So to this I really have no idea why. The only thing I can think of is that in this situation, a woman's guard is down, and she is emotionally distraught, so a man I guess could take advantage of the situation. 8.) "Men can never make decisions." I can agree to this, I feel that as a nice guy and a gentleman, I should allow my date to make the decisions on where to go, unless I set some...