Do Realtionships fail because of lack of communication?
...e, it explains in detail and examples the seven that eventually can break a relationship. The seven mistakes that should be avoided are: forced intimacy, expecting your mate to read your mind, playing the martyr, assuming you are always right, rescuing your mate, taking your mate for granted, and letting passion die (Bushong 4). The reasons that people make these common mistakes is because they are afraid of closeness and will probably deny it. To keep the relationship alive a person needs to learn how to set boundaries for themselves and their mate and communication clearly around those boundary lines. “Emotional intimacy is the heart of a good, healthy, long term relationship; it is the one element without which real love cannot survive” (Bushong 50). People who are terrified of commitment and intimacy are usually the ones who will most likely force intimacy. This can scare the mate away and result in the relationship failing rather quickly. To avoid this mistake, people need to learn to “pull back” your energy from your mate and refocus it on things that interest and please you (Bushong 72). Expecting your mate to read your mind is another relationship mistake. Communication is very important in a relationship and if you just rely on your mate to think of what you are thinking, then the relationship can turn sour. “Communication is the heart of love” (Bushong 77). Communication bridges two people together, and even though it is impossible to communicate all the time, if there is no communication then it is hardly a relationship to keep. When there is no communication then people deprive themselves, their mate, and the relationship. Communicating is very important that when a couple starts to miscommunicate, a predictable chain of events can start to happen. If people continually miscommunicate with one another then their partner will feel unloved (Bushong 78). Again, it is said that too much communication can also ruin a relationship. “Women are so used to being the communicators that they often don’t even realize they’re not giving their mate a chance to share” (Bushong 79). There are four steps that are suggested that keep communication healthy in a relationship. In a relationship, you need to express yourself, state what you want, ask for a commitment, and outline consequences of your mate (Bushong 81). If these four steps are kept in mind, then a person should have no trouble communicating with their mate; which in turn can end up in a very healthy relationship. On the opposite side of the spectrum, if you begin to judge, whine, order and withdraw from your mate then there is a problem. Judgmental remarks can make a person feel like they are unloved and did something wrong. In that case, the wrong type of communication was acquired. Another fact that arose is that people are afraid to admit they are unhappy. People are afraid that if they communicate their unhappiness it will ruin the relationship (Bushong 89). Wordless communication can also cause problems in the relationship. It can easily be misread and your significant other may not understand why. If your mate asks you a question and you respond with “nothing” or “you’re fine” and they assume everything is okay and don’t ask again; do not get mad at them. It’s not your mates fault if you decide not to communicate in an adult manner. Since, there are...