To Fall or To Fly
... and life in general on their own. Our ways of thinking and our attitudes toward ourselves as well as others are determined from the world around us; from T.V, magazines, movies, and books. Our environment preaches and teaches us a way of understanding love, and expectations that we should have for love and others. As a result, people tend to lose sight of what is important and begin to think of themselves in terms of objects for sale on the market place of love. The fact that we want to be wanted, and we want to attract consumers. Moreover, we want to enrich our own egos by profitable deals with other egos. (Merton, 27). People associate love with luck, and hope that they will meet the person that will fulfill them, make them happy, and enhance their life. But, this “me” attitude that is rooted in selfish desire is exactly what lures people away from the true meaning of love. The commercialized idea of love, the love that is defined in terms of “me,” is what diverts our attention more and more from the essentials to the accessories of love. The article claims that “anyone who regards love as a deal made on the basis of ‘needs’ is in danger of falling into a purely quantitative ethic.” This is an attitude that will always stress quantity and not quality of substance; an attitude that will always question the life being lived and maybe feel that it is somehow hallow. Actually, to consider love merely as a matter of need and fulfillment, which is what we have been told to expect daily and hourly – as something that works itself out in a cool deal – is to miss the whole point of love, and of life itself. (Merton, 27) This is negative, and a perspective on love as a lack...