Safe Sex?
... pregnant while human sperm is much large than HI-virus. Of course latex pores in the condom are just one side of the matter besides that there is the possibility of sex partners making some errors. And sometimes the condoms can also be not of a good quality. There is always the chance of condom leakage, condom slipping off or breaking. Buying condoms one can never be sure what happened on the way from the condom factory to the shop. Too much heat or pressure is bad for the condoms and there are regulations for the proper transportation of the condoms. Yet still it happens that these prescriptions are not followed. Then the idea of the condoms being safe becomes even more vague. I have talked about the possibility that condoms are not safe. Now lets twist the thread even more and say that condoms are not safe they are dangerous. There is this illusion of safe sex linked to the condom. It is thinkable that young people make sexual relationships more easily in the era of sex revolution when there are these condom advertisements hanging up all around the city and campaigns for promoting the condom usage. The condom is presented like a new chocolate bar or an improved washing-powder what almost everybody is made to believe into trying out. Unfortunately promoting the safe sex does not help teenagers much. A parable illustrating that idea would sound as follows. Mother sees her baby playing with a knife. She is terrified of the possibility her baby hurting himself, but she can see that the baby enjoys fooling around with the knife. Mother knows she has to take some action fast until the baby kills himself. She tries to take the knife away from the baby thereupon the baby becomes very sad and starts to cry. Mother understands that she has to give the baby something instead of the knife. Then she replaces the knife with scissors… The condom creates an idea of safety. There seem to be no future problems linked to the present sexual intercourse, but that is surely just a vague dream. There can also be a cloud from the past shading the present. The sex partners can think that they are not HIV positive. They may even have test results to prove that. Awful thing about HI-virus is its long incubation. Person can be infected with HIV, but there is the possibility of not detecting it for three to six months, sometimes even longer period of time. Consequently, it can happen that a person truly thinks he/she is HIV negative, but is actually positive. Then there is the question of honesty gliding in the air. How can a person be sure his/her partner is telling the truth? Maybe he/she is just deforming the truth just a little bit for not blowing the opportunity of sexual intercourse. So, we can realize from the reasoning above that safe sex has a lot to do with trust and with the well being of partners. Last thing mentioned was evident from one study commented by Rusty Wright. Married couples in which one partner was HIV positive were under examination. When couples used condoms for protection, after one and one-half years, 17% of the healthy partners had become infected (Wright 1995). Now, if I go more further with proving that safe sex does not exist I leave aside the physical threat to get an infection or unplanned pregnancy. I will take the spiritual side of the sexual intercourse under the consideration. The sexual relationship involves ones body, soul and spirit. There is that possible risk of getting a disease what mainly affects your body. Though terrible illness like AIDS has a tremendous influence on ones mental health. Still that is more like an after affect of an infection. The problem concerning the condom and the mental health is about something else. Christina Espebscheid points out that the condoms do not protect the heart. She says (Espebscheid 2004): “With every act of sexual activity the persons involved release oxytocin, a hormone in the brain, which creates permanent bonds in the brain, linking the two people. Because the couple has bonded, there is heartache when a breakup occurs.” Sexual activity always concerns emotional side. Not only from the point of view that hopefully people who so to say sleep together like each other, but taking into consideration the bonding effect. After a sexual intercourse where partners have bonded it is terrible when they have to go “separate ways” the next morning. Braking up can be a very stressful experience. Especially when people do not know about the bonding effect. Young people are very vulnerable. Majority of teens do not have preparedness to deal with the distress of losing a sexual relationship. Researchers state (Culture of Life Foundation 2003) that the studies on sexual activity in teenage years show that among sexually active teens there are higher percentages of depression, suicide and other emotional problems like the loss of self-respect than among sexually not active teenagers. Of course I am sober enough for realising that a break-up can occur after a sexual intercourse where the condom was used or it can as well follow a sexual intercourse without the condom. Though the point I want to make is that condoms do not protect against the heart getting broken. The condom is meant to avoid the spreading of ones body liquates, it sometimes fails to do it, but one does not need to be the most intelligent person in the world to understand that the condom can not protect against the realise of oxytocin. I would even say that if there were a condom effective to stop the realise of oxytocin in human brain then nobody would probably use it. Presumably using it would mean the risk of preventing the realise ...